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Read with intentionUnderstanding your attachment patterns.
The way we learned to connect early on can echo through our adult relationships — in how we trust, how close we let people get, and how we handle conflict. Therapy helps you see the pattern clearly and build steadier, more secure bonds. In Parramatta or online.
The same pattern, different relationships.
Attachment is simply how we have learned to seek and hold connection. When the pattern is an insecure one, closeness can feel confusing or unsafe — and it tends to repeat until it is understood.
- You need a lot of reassurance, and fear people will leave.
- Or you pull away when someone gets close, and value your distance.
- Relationships run hot and cold, and you are not sure why.
- Trusting people is hard, even when they have given you no reason not to.
- You read rejection into small things, and it stings deeply.
- You swing between wanting closeness and fearing it.
- You often feel like "too much" or "not enough" for others.
- You keep ending up in the same kind of relationship, wishing it were different.
Attachment styles form early — but they are not a life sentence. With awareness and support, people genuinely move toward more secure, trusting connection. This is information rather than a diagnosis; a psychologist can help you understand your own patterns.
From insight to secure connection.
Your psychologist draws on the approaches with the strongest evidence for relationship and attachment patterns, and tailors the work to you.
Schema therapy
Gently reworking the deep patterns and beliefs about closeness that took root in early experiences.
Emotionally focused therapy
Understanding the emotions underneath the pattern, so connection starts to feel safer rather than threatening.
CBT
Testing the anxious or avoidant beliefs that fire in relationships, and practising steadier responses.
Relational therapy
A safe, consistent therapeutic relationship in which to notice your patterns and practise trust in real time.
A lot of this work is done one-to-one; couples or family sessions are an option where they would help. We review your goals together, and you set the pace.
Your first weeks, step by step.
No pressure, no jargon. Here is how the early sessions usually unfold.
Mostly a conversation
Your psychologist asks about your relationships and what you would like to feel differently. You go only as far as you are comfortable.
Seeing the pattern
Together you map how your attachment style shows up, where it came from, and the responses you would like to build — then practise between sessions.
Reviewing together
You check progress against your goals and adjust as your relationships shift. It is always your call how far and how long you go.
Know your costs before you start.
We confirm your fee and any rebate in writing before your first session. If a funding body covers you, we bill them directly wherever possible.
See the full fee schedule- Medicare: rebates on up to 10 sessions a year with a Mental Health Care Plan from your GP.
- NDIS, DVA, Workers Comp & CTP: usually no out-of-pocket cost when approved.
- Private health: claim through your extras cover, with no referral needed.
Psychologists who work with relationships.
Things people ask before booking.
Do I need a referral to start?
Can attachment patterns really change?
Do I need to bring my partner?
Is what I share confidential?
Can I do sessions online?
Closer, steadier relationships are possible.
Tell us what is going on and we will match you with a psychologist who works with attachment and relationships — usually within one business day. No referral needed to begin.
Let’s get you matched.
No referral needed to begin. Medicare rebates apply with a Mental Health Treatment Plan.
Thanks — we'll call you back within one business day. If it's time-sensitive, call us on 1300 084 200.
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